\u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcleri taraf\u0131ndan “\u00f6nce kendini korumas\u0131 ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesi” telkin edilen insano\u011flunun egosunu adeta eriten bir duygudur; a\u015fk… Ruhsal hastal\u0131klardakine benzer baz\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fikliklerin v\u00fccudumuzda a\u015f\u0131k iken de meydana gelmesine kar\u015f\u0131n, psikiyatride bir hastal\u0131k olarak kabul edilmeyen ve bilimsel a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131 yap\u0131lamayan a\u015fk; insan\u0131 ya\u015fama ba\u011flayan bir fakt\u00f6r olabildi\u011fi gibi, bazen marazi bir hale de d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febiliyor.<\/p>\n
A\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n kendini ve kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini idealize ederek y\u00fcceltti\u011fini, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin sivriliklerini, ayk\u0131r\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 yumu\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131; hatta g\u00f6rmezden geldi\u011fini belirten Psikiyatri Uzman\u0131 Dr. Ali Ayas, bu duyguyu \u015fu ifadelerle tan\u0131ml\u0131yor:<\/p>\n
“G\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcze a\u015f\u0131k olmay\u0131z, a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Belki de ilk kez bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n iyili\u011fi i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekten kayg\u0131 duyar\u0131z. O ba\u015fkas\u0131 ‘ben’imizin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7er. Neredeyse egomuz erir, onunkinin i\u00e7inde kaybolur. Bu ilgin\u00e7 bir duygudur, sanki do\u011fam\u0131za da ayk\u0131r\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fclerimiz bize \u00f6nce kendini koru, \u00f6nce kendini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn diye emretmi\u015ftir.”<\/p>\n
Do\u011fam\u0131za pek ayk\u0131r\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesine bakarak a\u015fk\u0131n hastal\u0131k olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n akla geldi\u011fini ifade eden Dr. Ayas, a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n ruh halini ise \u015f\u00f6yle dile getiriyor:<\/p>\n
“Ger\u00e7ekten de ruhsal hastal\u0131klardakine benzer baz\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fikliklerin, v\u00fccudumuzda a\u015f\u0131k iken de oldu\u011fu g\u00f6sterilmi\u015f; serotonin, dopomin, oksitosin gibi Hormonlar\u0131n seviyelerinin de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fi ispatlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Yine de t\u00fcm bunlar a\u015fk\u0131n hastal\u0131k oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez elbette; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc sevgililer aras\u0131ndaki duygu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi san\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kt\u0131r. E\u015fitlik ilkesine dayanmaz. Kartopu gibidir. Verdi\u011fimizden \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131 bize geri d\u00f6ner. Se\u00e7ilmi\u015f olmak, be\u011fenilmi\u015f olmak gibi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z kar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r, se\u00e7ip be\u011fendi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in. Bu evrende yaln\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hissederiz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc biraz da onun ayaklar\u0131 ile yere basar\u0131z daha sa\u011flam olarak.”<\/p>\n
A\u015eK TUTKUYA D\u00d6N\u00dc\u015eT\u00dc\u011e\u00dcNDE KISKAN\u00c7LI\u011eIN G\u00dcD\u00dcM\u00dcNE G\u0130R\u0130YOR
\nA\u015fk\u0131n, sahiplenme arzusu ve sonucunda bir \u00e7e\u015fit e\u015fitlik i\u00e7inde birle\u015fme arzusu olabilece\u011fini dile getiren Dr. Ayas, buradan hareketle 3 \u00e7e\u015fit a\u015fktan s\u00f6z edilebilece\u011fini kaydediyor. A\u015fk \u00e7e\u015fitlerini ‘h\u00fckmeden a\u015fk’, itaat eden ‘aday\u0131c\u0131 a\u015fk’ ve ‘birle\u015ftiren a\u015fk’ \u015feklinde s\u0131ralayan Ayas, “Her \u00fc\u00e7\u00fc de tutkuya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Tutku sahiplenmenin son ve kesin halidir. Mutlak olarak sahip olunma ya da sahip olma iste\u011fidir. Nietzsche k\u00f6lele\u015ftiren tutku i\u00e7in \u015f\u00f6yle der; sahip oldu\u011funa dair daha ince kan\u0131tlar ister ki\u015fi. Bize verdikleri de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda bizim i\u00e7in nelerden vazge\u00e7ebildi\u011fini g\u00f6rme arzusudur. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla k\u00f6lele\u015ftiren a\u015fk ayn\u0131 zamanda t\u00fcketen bir a\u015fkt\u0131r da. A\u015fk, tutkuya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ve nefretin g\u00fcd\u00fcm\u00fcne girer. Gazetelerin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc sayfalar\u0131ndaki cinayetlerin ‘a\u015fk cinayeti’ de\u011fil ‘tutku su\u00e7u’ oldu\u011funu unutmayal\u0131m” diyor.<\/p>\n
Baz\u0131 a\u015fklar\u0131n hastal\u0131kl\u0131 bir hale gelip psikiyatrinin alan\u0131na girebildiklerini belirten Dr. Ali Ayas, hastal\u0131k boyutu alan a\u015fklar\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle \u00f6zetliyor:<\/p>\n
“Erotomani, (ki bir \u00e7e\u015fit ak\u0131l hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r) en s\u0131k rastlanan\u0131d\u0131r. Genelde daha \u00fcst sosyoekonomik d\u00fczeydeki bir erke\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 bir kad\u0131n\u0131n hissetti\u011fi imkans\u0131z a\u015fkt\u0131r. Ger\u00e7ekle ilgisi kopmu\u015f olan ki\u015fi bu a\u015fk\u0131 hayalinde (hezeyanlar\u0131na) b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcr; hatta bazen kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015finin hayat\u0131n\u0131 zehreder.<\/p>\n
Don Juanizm de bir ba\u015fka hastal\u0131kl\u0131 a\u015fk t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr. Asl\u0131nda buna a\u015fk demek pek do\u011fru de\u011fildir. Olabildi\u011fi kadar \u00e7ok kad\u0131nla \u00e7iftle\u015fme arzusudur. Burada kad\u0131n\u0131 elde etme arzusu ‘dayan\u0131lmaz bir a\u015fk’m\u0131\u015f gibi ya\u015fan\u0131r. Cinsel birliktelikten sonra ise ortada hi\u00e7bir duygu kalmaz.”<\/p>\n
Asl\u0131nda a\u015fk\u0131n fizyolojimizde yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fikliklerin b\u00fcy\u00fck bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131n iyile\u015ftirici \u00f6zellikleri oldu\u011funu vurgulayan Dr. Ayas, “A\u015fk kalp h\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 artt\u0131r\u0131r, kan dola\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 h\u0131zland\u0131r\u0131r, ki\u015fi kendini daha enerjik hisseder. \u00d6nceden a\u015f\u0131lmaz gibi g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc sorunlar\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelebilme g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc kendisinde bulur. Fiziksel g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcm ve sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na daha dikkat eder. Spora ba\u015flar, estetik bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 aksatmaz. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla \u00f6zg\u00fcveni artar ve kendini daha Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 hisseder. Yine baz\u0131 Hormon de\u011fi\u015fimleri ki\u015fiyi Depresyondan koruyucu bir etki yapmaktad\u0131r. D\u00fcnyaya ve insanlara ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcyle yakla\u015f\u0131r. Belki de ‘a\u015fk\u0131n u\u011fur getirmesi’ s\u00f6z\u00fc bununla ilgilidir” diyor.
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\u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcleri taraf\u0131ndan “\u00f6nce kendini korumas\u0131 ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesi” telkin edilen insano\u011flunun egosunu adeta eriten bir duygudur; a\u015fk… Ruhsal hastal\u0131klardakine benzer baz\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fikliklerin v\u00fccudumuzda a\u015f\u0131k iken de meydana gelmesine kar\u015f\u0131n, psikiyatride bir hastal\u0131k olarak kabul edilmeyen ve bilimsel a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131 yap\u0131lamayan a\u015fk; insan\u0131 ya\u015fama ba\u011flayan bir fakt\u00f6r olabildi\u011fi gibi, bazen marazi bir hale de d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febiliyor. A\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n kendini ve kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini idealize ederek y\u00fcceltti\u011fini, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin[Devam\u0131n\u0131 Oku…]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[229],"tags":[1740],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2726"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2726"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2726\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2726"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2726"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2726"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}