\u0130stanbul \u00dcniversitesi \u0130stanbul T\u0131p Fak\u00fcltesi \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131 ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 se\u00e7erken \u00e7ok gen\u00e7 ya da \u00e7ok ya\u015fl\u0131 ki\u015fileri tercih etmemeleri gerekti\u011fini belirtti. <\/p>\n
Ailelerin, \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 se\u00e7iminde yapacaklar\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n bile kimi zaman telafisi zor sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, “Ebeveynler do\u011fru bak\u0131c\u0131ya karar verme s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde belli noktalara dikkat ederlerse, kendileri ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in en Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 se\u00e7imi yapabilirler. Bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131n\u0131n her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u00e7ok gen\u00e7 ve \u00e7ok ya\u015fl\u0131 olmamas\u0131 gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ge\u00e7ler tecr\u00fcbesiz olabilecekleri gibi \u00e7ok ya\u015fl\u0131lar da \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygusal ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na cevap veremezler. \u00c7ocukla aralar\u0131nda ileti\u015fim sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fanabilir. Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n aileden biri olmas\u0131n\u0131n gereklili\u011fi \u00fczerinde duruyoruz. Bu b\u00fcy\u00fckanneler veya akrabadan herhangi biri olabilir. Bunun \u00f6tesinde \u00e7ocu\u011fa bakmas\u0131na karar verilen ki\u015fi, e\u011fer aileden biri ya da akraba ise, bu ki\u015finin \u00e7ocu\u011fa bakmaya ger\u00e7ekten g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc ve uygun oldu\u011fundan emin olmak gerekir” dedi.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n kendi evinde bak\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131n daha olumlu sonu\u00e7lar verece\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, “\u00c7ocuklar kendilerini evlerinde ve odalar\u0131nda daha g\u00fcvende hissederler. O nedenle bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fa m\u00fcmk\u00fcnse ailenin evinde bakmas\u0131 daha uygundur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ebeveynler kendi evlerinde temizlik, d\u00fczen ve hijyen kurallar\u0131n\u0131 daha kolay koyabilir ve uygulanmas\u0131n\u0131 daha kolay sa\u011flayabilirler. Ayr\u0131ca kendi evinde bak\u0131lan \u00e7ocuk, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fabilece\u011fi kimi tehlikelere kar\u015f\u0131 korunma \u015fans\u0131na da sahip olur. Bebek emeklemeye ya da y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131 kimi tehlikelerle ilgili \u00f6nlem al\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekti\u011finde, bunu ailenin kendi evinde yapmas\u0131 daha kolay olur ” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
BAKICININ \u00d6NCEL\u0130KLE ANNE OLMASI \u00d6NEML\u0130 B\u0130R AYRINTIDIR
\nBir \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00e7ok sevmesi gerekti\u011fini dile getiren Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, “Bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6ncelikle anne olmas\u0131 \u00f6nemli bir ayr\u0131nt\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk bakma ve yeti\u015ftirme konusunda daha pratik ve deneyimli olur anneler. Bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n temiz, d\u00fczenli ve d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmas\u0131 gerekir. D\u00fczenli bir Aile ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n olmas\u0131 da bak\u0131c\u0131 da aranan bir di\u011fer kriterdir. \u00d6te yandan, bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n e\u011fitimli, kendini yeti\u015ftirmi\u015f, bilin\u00e7li, sevecen, g\u00fcler y\u00fczl\u00fc, esnek ve ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc olmas\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir” dedi.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, bak\u0131c\u0131 olarak se\u00e7ilen ki\u015finin sigara, Alkol gibi al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131 olmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fine de\u011finerek, bir bak\u0131c\u0131da olmas\u0131 gereken di\u011fer \u00f6zellikleri de \u015f\u00f6yle s\u0131ralad\u0131:<\/p>\n
“Sorumluluk ve inisiyatif sahibi olmas\u0131, ileti\u015fim becerisinin bulunmas\u0131, ki\u015filik olarak bak\u0131lacak \u00e7ocu\u011fun annesine benzemesi ve sab\u0131rl\u0131 olmas\u0131 gerekmektedir.”<\/p>\n
Dr. Abal\u0131, s\u0131k s\u0131k de\u011fi\u015ftirilen bak\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131n da \u00e7ocu\u011fun psikolojisi \u00fczerinde olumsuz etkiler meydana getirece\u011fini ifade ederek, “Bak\u0131c\u0131 olarak karar verdi\u011finiz ki\u015finin ne kadar s\u00fcre \u00e7ocu\u011fa bakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 mutlaka \u00f6\u011frenmek gerekir. En az\u0131ndan 3-4 ya\u015f\u0131na kadar \u00e7ocu\u011fun yan\u0131nda olup olmayaca\u011f\u0131 konusunda kendisinden net bilgi al\u0131nmal\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar kendileriyle ilgilenen yeti\u015fkine ba\u011flan\u0131r ve onunla duygusal bir ba\u011f kurar, bebeklik d\u00f6neminde s\u0131k s\u0131k de\u011fi\u015fen bak\u0131c\u0131lar \u00e7ocu\u011fun psikolojisi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131zd\u0131r. Bunun yan\u0131 s\u0131ra her defas\u0131nda yeni birine al\u0131\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, hem \u00e7ocuk hem de ebeveynler i\u00e7in zordur” \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
MECBUR KALMADIK\u00c7A BAKICININ YATILI KALMASINI \u0130STEMEY\u0130N
\n\u00c7ocu\u011fun teslim edilece\u011fi bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n kendi ortam\u0131n\u0131n da g\u00f6r\u00fclmesi gerekti\u011fine de\u011finen Abal\u0131, “\u015eartlar uygunsa bak\u0131c\u0131 evinde ziyaret edilerek, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla ili\u015fkisi g\u00f6zlenmeli. E\u011fer bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n daha \u00f6nce \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ailelerle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme \u015fans\u0131 varsa ebeveynler bunu de\u011ferlendirmeli. Kom\u015fular\u0131yla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ferek bak\u0131c\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bilgi almal\u0131 ve bunlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n n\u00fcfus c\u00fczdan\u0131 \u00f6rne\u011fi vb. gerekli belgeleri temin edilmeli” dedi.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n gece g\u00fcnd\u00fcz \u00e7ocuk ile birlikte olmas\u0131n\u0131n da bir tak\u0131m sak\u0131ncalar do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyerek, “Mecbur kalmad\u0131k\u00e7a bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n yat\u0131l\u0131 kalmas\u0131n\u0131 istemeyin. Bu ebeveynler ile \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda zamanla geli\u015fecek bir kopuklu\u011fa zemin haz\u0131rlayabilir. Ebeveynlerin, i\u015fe ba\u015flamadan belirli bir s\u00fcre \u00e7ocuk ile bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n ileti\u015fimini g\u00f6zlemlemeli ve \u00e7ocukla bak\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 incelenmelidir. E\u011fer bak\u0131c\u0131 sert tepkiler veriyor, \u00e7abuk \u00f6fkeleniyor ve kontrols\u00fcz tav\u0131rlar sergiliyorsa, bu uygun bir bak\u0131c\u0131 aday\u0131 de\u011fildir ve aile karar\u0131n\u0131 buna g\u00f6re vermelidir” \u00f6nerisinde bulundu.<\/p>\n
Ebeveynler ile bak\u0131c\u0131 aras\u0131ndaki kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00fcvenin \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlatan Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, “\u00c7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 hakk\u0131nda yetirince fikir edinilememi\u015fse ve \u00e7ocu\u011fu mecburiyetten bak\u0131c\u0131ya emanet edilmi\u015fse anne, s\u0131k s\u0131k evini arayarak evde her \u015feyin yolunda oldu\u011fundan emin olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kom\u015fulardan, akrabalardan birinden arada bir eve u\u011framas\u0131n\u0131 isteyerek \u00e7ocu\u011fu kontrol edilmesini de rica edilebilir.<\/p>\n
Bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131ndan \u015fikayet\u00e7i olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun tavr\u0131n\u0131n mutlaka dikkate al\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekti\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen Dr. Abal\u0131, “E\u011fer \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131ndan memnun de\u011filse ve \u015fikayet ediyorsa \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinleyin ve ona bu rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fatan nedenleri bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n” \u00f6nerisinde bulundu.(\u0130HA)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130stanbul \u00dcniversitesi \u0130stanbul T\u0131p Fak\u00fcltesi \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131 ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 se\u00e7erken \u00e7ok gen\u00e7 ya da \u00e7ok ya\u015fl\u0131 ki\u015fileri tercih etmemeleri gerekti\u011fini belirtti. Ailelerin, \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 se\u00e7iminde yapacaklar\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n bile kimi zaman telafisi zor sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikiyatr\u0131 Dr. Osman Abal\u0131, “Ebeveynler do\u011fru bak\u0131c\u0131ya karar verme s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde belli noktalara dikkat ederlerse,[Devam\u0131n\u0131 Oku…]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[229],"tags":[1752],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2738"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2738"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2738\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2738"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2738"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gncz.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2738"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}